On My Personal Style Choices.
I had my 24 hrs of twitter fame a few months ago in a very “I never expected it” manner.
Frankly, I would have thought that when the day came for me to join the league of twitter famous people with over a hundred RTs on a single tweet, it would be for an achievement or something worthwhile. But instead, I made the cut because of a remark my dad made about my style.
I’ll explain.
Growing up with parents with a cutthroat approach to things they don’t understand and a sharp sarcastic tongue, made me pretty resilient to whatever they had to say, but I wasn’t at all prepared for the remark that made me twitter famous.
I never saw it coming so that when it came, I found myself doubled over in laughter but clinging for my dear life at the savageness of it all.
It started with a complaint about my hair – the Afro wig from nappyhairedwigs that has slowly and somewhat unintentionally become my signature look and then suddenly shifted to my style.
My parents have always been averse to my personal style. They’ve voiced their displeasure with the way I dress more than a couple of times, using colorful words to describe the way they think my personal style makes me look.
Words like “herdsmen”, “mad woman” and this latest one “dustbin”
Reading the replies to my “famous tweet” made me realize that I’m probably not alone in this struggle to get my parents to just let me be when it comes to what I wear. So I thought to write a quick open letter to them on my personal style choices.
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First of all, it’s “fa-shun” don’t hate. But asides from it being fashion, it’s also how I’ve chosen to express myself.
My love for over-sized clothing and pieces that look like they belong from a time past doesn’t mean that I don’t know what’s good for me.
Although, I realize how odd and embarrassing it might feel for your adult daughter to be more interested in baggy jeans to ladylike silhouettes and frankly, sometimes I think about the fact that I should probably make more of an effort to “slay”.
I’m all about comfort and would put on whatever makes me feel comfortable and more like myself. I am in no way averse to the ladylike dresses and outfits you’ll rather see me in. Quite the contrary. I love being able to switch up whenever the occasion calls for it.
Although, I’m more amused than hurt. I hope that with time, my style will grow on you and the snide remarks would stop. Whether that day comes or not though, I plan to stay true to myself.
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Quick Outfit Notes.
This was definitely not the wisest outfit choice for my Epe mangrove trip. First off, white sneakers to a muddy mashy place was all shades of fail. Then, I decided to layer my favorite floral dress by wearing a t-shirt inside it on a hot sunny day.
Needless to say, it wasn’t my most practical fashion moment, but definitely, one of my favorite style moments because I loved the vibe of this look. What’s that thing about beauty being pain again?. I’ve styled this dress previously on the blog here.
Let me know what you think about this look and how you would style it differently.
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This letter is short oh! Lol.
I thought I’d have needed to settle and digest the letter. But it’s all fa-shun! Comfort is key and no one has to like it! Xx
KacheeTee.com
Do you know what’s even funnier to me?
My dad will gladly allow me trade styles with you..
“Your dress is too short” “dont you think youve outgrown this top” “are you sure you are comfortable in that?”
That’s therr is my dad.
The comments have reduced now but you can tell he is still not pleased..
Lol.
Parents.. you cant completely satisfy them. That I know.
Becomingyeva.com
Hahaha, this made me chuckle. Parents are so out of timing with their comments sometimes. You gotta love them though. Really enjoyed this read! Staying true to who you are is a great way to get on with ya life. Not everyone would love what you do but you have to be comfortable in your own skin!💓
Nigerian parents are the same everywhere. my mum says i look like a masquerade with make up on😂. Lets not get to the grief i get for wearing dresses with low necklines or short ones, trousers!!!, coloured hair etc.. sigh i did faux locs and that was the end……kuku kill me
Our parents mean the best, but sometimes I wish they could stop and listen to what they say. It’s so funny how the ones who are supposed to love you more than any of the creatures on God’s good earth can also be the ones that try to limit and tame you. Go girl! Be true to yourself irrespective of what everyone( including Daddy or Mommy) says.
how else i would style it, depends on the kind of event i want to wear it to. but i think wearing the floral dress with any colored t-shirt and a nice flats with a hat and other accessories will be nice.
or the floral dress without a t-shirt, a short jacket or blazer and heels or flats