20 Things i’ve Learned in 20years

Happy Birthday to Me!!!!
Wow! It honestly seems like just yesterday that i was 16 and hiding my age from people because i felt too young. Right now i feel ancient! lol. I know its just 20 but its a big deal for me. 20 means a whole lot of things, for one it means I’m getting old and well, that sucks.
 I’m just going to share 20 things i learned in my 20 years on earth

– Pain is an integral part of life : I’m starting with pain because that’s one of the first real emotion i had to deal with and it thought me a lot and helped me grow! i learnt that there really is light at the end of the tunnel, that pain ends eventually but you have to choose to be happy instead. It will pass, you will survive and you will be a better person for it.

– God has the perfect
timing : Patience has never been one of my greatest virtues and I’ve made lots of wrong decisions just because i refused to be patient and trust God to come through for me but really He has the perfect timing, it takes a little patience and faith
but its worth the wait.

– Comparison is the thief of joy :  Its easy to get carried away comparing yourself with others but I’ve had to learn that its not a healthy way to live. A friend once told me “There’s nothing as great as a thing whose time has come” and it stuck!  So remember darlings we are all unique and special, be easy on yourself, work hard and focus on doing you.

– You create your own calm : Having had to pick myself up and get my shit together has taught me how much power I truly have in my life. I’m responsible for my own happiness, no one else!

– Feelings are fickle : Most times its better to trust your head than go with your heart.

– Never settle for less than you deserve : Especially in Love.

– Be nice to everyone : This one I’m really still learning because people can be very annoying but it can never be overemphasized! Treat everyone right not only because you don’t know what people are going through but also because you don’t know who’s help you will need later in the future. You know that friend you fell out with? Just apologize and let it go.

– Trust your instinct

– Let Go : You may never really forget people/things that hurt you but you can release them. You become free of them when you do. Let it go baby.

– Stop thinking and start doing : If there’s one thing i learnt from finally cutting my hair is that its better to make all the mistakes you can now and learn from them. At least now i know that cutting my hair might not have been the best idea but i’m just really glad i did something i’ve always wanted to do.

– Love Yourself : You gotta learn to love yourself , love your flaws, love your imperfections. Accept yourself.

– And your Body too : I’ve gotten comfortable with my body. I love my size even though i go through insane periods where i think I’m too fat and i love my height even more regardless of some of the Problems that come with it.

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Self confidence will take you places : Most often, People will perceive you how you perceive yourself. The aura you give off is very important, make sure you send off the right vibes.

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Be your own person : Be not afraid to not conform to the norm. Don’t make decisions or live based on what others think or are doing.
Dress the way you want!  Know yourself and Be yourself

– Be thankful always : For even the littlest things that people do for you, saying thank you is really important and it just saddens me when people don’t realize this

– The littlest things in life matter the most.Because really everything else is jut vanity. This life is vanity so hold on to the things that matter the most. Friends, family, laughter.

– Its okay to not be okay : I wrote a post on that here

-The company you keep around you is very important : Surround yourself with positive thinkers and doers. Trust me, you’ll be better off for it

– You really don’t need to be in a relationship: Especially because everyone else is in one and you feel alone. Nope, its not compulsory. A relationship shouldn’t be out of guilty conscience, convenience or a moment of desire.  Learn to enjoy your solitude

– Group of 3 never works, someone always feels left out – Yup!I have first hand knowledge of this

This is a scheduled post so please forgive and overlook any
grammatical errors, i had to rush this up or deal with an angry Tracy (my friend)

Cassandra Ikegbune
xoxo

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