Eighteen years : On Loving All Of Me

It took me 18 years to realize that I could make heads turn when I walked by and even then It was a realization tinged with the dark colors of doubt.

It took me 18 years to realize I could just reach up
and unstick the plain jane’ label placed on my forehead by every time I was overlooked.

Ah, Yes. the forehead. It took me 18 years to
realize that this mountain wasn’t to be hidden by tufts of hair but to be shown off like the beautiful landmark it is.

It took me eighteen years to realize that my squinty eyes though slant and sometimes unequal could even be called beautiful

18 years to realize that I was a goldfish, made to stand out. That not all flowers bloom at the same time.

It took me today to “fully” realize that I don’t have to try to be prettier, softer, or dress more feminine. To embrace my quirkiness

Eighteen Years. To learn to fully love all of me.

Cassandra Ikegbune
xoxo

Author: Cassie Daves

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  • I think too many times we're taught what is beautiful and how to look and what to wear, and it takes a lot of time to actually realise that, it's fine just being you. You're beautiful inside out, and don't let anyone tell you different! and I love your squinty eyes, I have big round eyes and I used to always wish they were smaller and more of an almond shape. Really loved this post, stay beautiful! 🙂

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  • I think is the environment and the mentality that girls should stick to being girls that makes one sometimes doubt your inner beauty. Believe me Engineering taught me the +ve and -ve side of femininity but then the way I choose to embrase mine should soley depend on me. You are pretty biko and ur style is so you and I don't think u should ever second guess that. Nice post.
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  • I loved reading this. We are our own worst critic sometimes and to accept ourselves, to love ourselves as easily and as readily as we can do something external of ourselves is a tough journey but once you've accomplished it, is so empowering and so beautiful. Awesome post girl

  • It's so good to L♥√ع oneself, I have always been the big chick in terms of size, I used to be called all sort of names especially while in secondary school but I have always loved me and not let the words of others define me and that has made me real strong. We all need to L♥√ع ourselves for who we are and am so glad you do. You are unique my dear. Cassie I don't know if you have an old post of how to tie a turban, really love the way you tie your scarves, if you don't, can you please do one. Thanks dear

  • Awwwww Hunnny dis is so so touchy,me am just even stil realising mine.And am grateful for some things I call flaws some people do evny me for.We ought to learn as humans to be more grateful because we are differently made and unique in our ways and yes! There is no perfect body,even the so called figure 8!!

  • I would add another perspective… How about when u r considered conventionally beautiful, when on average good things actually happen to u. Sometimes it seems to others that you shouldn't complain about anything. On the outside you have got it all together. In your mind you trivialise your issues because "others have it harder so shut up" Yet you can't deny that u have your own struggles too. Maybe they are small, ridiculous, maybe I should 'go and sit down joor', but it's a troubling thing to silence one's self in that way. I dare say it's as bad as being socially unaccepted.

  • Hi am sandra and am new here,can't even tell u how much I went thru trying to see myself beautiful at one time in my life and I lacked motivation and am not surrounded by any courtsey of living in the north(kaduna) but I try to pick myyself up and say to myself I am better than what I am today and the. Best is yet to come,and I love me and thank u my namesake u have been an inspiration in my life,u never know we u help everyday jst with words.I love me!!!