A Few Notes On Navigating Adult Friendships

Lately it might seem like I’ve been going on and on about “friendships”. If you follow me on social media, you’d understand why I say this.

The thing is I’ve been learning and re-learning a lot of things as regards friendships and relationships in general. Sometimes these things/lessons get jumbled up in my head and I have to pen it down to put things back in order.

I’ve shared a bit of my candid thoughts regarding friendships previously here and truth be told, my intent with this post wasn’t to touch on the topic again.

But I was looking at these pictures I took during my stay at the lake house in
Cotonou in which my friend Banke featured and that triggered the direction of this post.

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Navigating friendships as an adult can be difficult. There’s the difficulty in making (and maintaining) friendships as an adult, especially if you’re like me – self reliant and not exactly “open” or expressive in the way that makes friendship thrive.

I’m learning that regardless it takes genuine effort on both ends and openness. That communication is the oil that lubricates relationships – communicating love, hurt, disappointments as wholly and gently as possible.

That sometimes you’re the toxic person that needs to just fix up and one can only take so much of excuses like “that’s just the way I am”

That not everyone expresses love in loud colors and sometimes it is a quiet but constant presence.

Adulting can be hard but it gets easier when you have a friend(s) to do it with

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Looking at these pictures always puts a smile on my face. It was a totally unplanned moment in the sense that I didn’t plan to get into my friend’s carefully curated set.

The rest of the pictures on the other hand were a bit planned. Although I didn’t know before hand what my exact frame would be, everything really worked in my favor.

I’m wearing this floral maxi blue dress that I’m not ashamed to admit I bought solely because I pictured it would make for a nice shoot during my lake house stay.

Outside of a shoot setting, it gives off a sort of homey vibe and I haven’t quite figured out if I’ll be wearing it again.

What do you think? Let me know your thoughts and let’s connect!

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