Redefining Beauty x Titi Sonuga : Speaking Into The Void

I know I’ve been doing a lot of “Life Diary” posts but you guys know that this blog isn’t just a fashion blog so yeah. (I
wrote an about page for the blog recently, you can check it out
incase you’re new around here and wondering what gives: here)

I went for the “Redefining beauty” event organized by gloria edozien and wana wana on sunday.
I
almost didn’t go for it because I didn’t want to go alone but sogie
gingered me on twitter so I put my clothes on and walked that walk alone.
I do not regret one second of it! At all!
It was such a remarkable event filled with amazing women with beautiful minds adressing “beauty issues” and sharing experiences.
I
just kept on nodding and nodding in agreement, most of the issues
addressed were recurring themes that I could totally identify with and
already blogged about e.g (here and here)

The set up.

Unfortunately, I really couldn’t take much pictures of the event.
One of my highest points of the event was Titi Sonuga’s perfomance. That was my first time hearing of her but I became a believer instantly.
She performed one of her poems “Speaking into the void” that I loved so much.

Here’s a snippet of the poem and the parts I loved the most :

I may know nothing at all
but I know that laughter is the gateway to forgiveness
that I laugh a lot

I know how bridges are built and how they are burnt

I know some roads lead to nowhere and nowhere is still a place

I know that we are all searching
and sometimes what we are looking for is not what we were looking for

it is okay to want new things
I believe in second chances
but I know how the same lesson
can disguise itself as a new beginning
so I believe in letting go

I think that God must be a multitasking woman
because my mother can cook 3 different meals at the same time
feeding people is how she expresses her love
I eat too much
peel her kindness clean off the bone

I know that there are many kinds of hunger

I know how an empty heart can feel like an empty belly

I know that sometimes what we cannot speak
is exactly what we are trying to say
pain can be so sharp that it cuts out your tongue

I know how women cover their wounds
until they fester and rot

I know how the smell of it can crowd a room

I know that my foot size is the exact distance from my wrist to my elbow
our bodies are mathematical equations
but we are still searching for the right answers

my heart is the size of a fist
and love often feels like throwing punches

I know how our bodies make silent contracts

how a kiss becomes a handcuff

I know the prisons we build to protect our hearts

I know that home isn’t always where the heart is
sometimes we make homes of the memories we refuse to forget
the bad habits we cannot seem to break
but I believe in starting over as many times as it takes
until you can lay you head to rest
in a place where even your scars
are a masterpiece
where your happiness is a seed
that is watered until bloated
where your whole being is a garden in full bloom

You can read the full piece on her site

Meanwhile, guysss. I think I have a problem.
I suck at socializing!
You know how some people just easily flow with their environment and people they just met?
I’m not one of those people so if you meet me outside and I seem a bit snubish. Nah Nah, at all.
You can’t imagine that the sole reason I had for going to the event was to network and guess who didn’t do any networking?

Yup! I don’t know what to call this one again. If I’m just shy or socially awkward *sigh*
Also didn’t take as much outfit pictures as I would have loved to so I’m definitely re-rocking that outfit for the blog ^_^

Cassandra Ikegbune
Xoxo