I felt this way a lot growing up,
Not quite the same but similar.
Over the years I’ve grown to accept myself, be comfortable in my own skin and to realize that I’m actually quite a looker.
But I have days when I feel I can be as colourful as some of the friends I keep.
That I pale in comparison to them.
Those days come and go leaving a bitter taste in my mouth.
I’m currently writing something I plan to title “sometimes I feel plain too”. Maybe I’ll end up completing this one or maybe not.
But this one is for everyone else who sometimes feel plain too.
One of the lessons I’m constantly re-learning is you can’t ignore what you feel for too long.
You see this self acceptance thing is a journey and it starts with making peace with the chaos inside your chest. Even the most self confident people have doubts sometimes but it doesn’t make them any less self confident.
The most important thing is that you learn not to stay down for too long, to shake off that feeling because after all is said and done, you have yourself to take care of.
Always remember you don’t quite need anyone’s validation of your beauty. Never let it become a drug you can’t live without. Be your own kind of beautiful.
Cassandra Ikegbune
xoxo
I think EVERY woman has felt this way! I did in middle school then I blossomed in collage I fell like! You have to find beauty in yourself, but happy with what God blessed you with n' realize there is someone for EVERYONE! You wrote a beautiful message!
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This really resonated with me, and now i've learned that beauty isn't one size fits all and as clique as it sounds, everyone has some form of beauty inside of them whether it be external or internal. But something I've had to realise is that I shouldn't let something as trivial as physical ideals dictate how I feel about myself. Great post, you're so gifted with words 🙂
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You said it all! Thank you!
Lovely
Happy new month and Happy Independence aniversary
This is such a beautiful poem, definitely sharing this on my blog. I used to feel like this before but not any more. It all comes down to learning to love yourself. xx
Ok so cassandra ehn, this self doubt thing is real as hell.the journey to self acceptance is one am taking currently and its been amazing. Allowing people decide if you are pretty or stylish enough is now out of style #oldie. And yes I am being my own kind of beautiful. Happy new month cassie.
Yess Susan, I know this!! Its not so easy but gradually it can happen
Happy new month to you too and I'm happy you're back to your blog
If you want to feel relevant, just love yourself first. There is no greater love than that.
Happy Independence..
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Everyone has felt this way at point in their life, just like you said, its a process, an unending one.
Happy Independence Cassie
I agree totally. As am writing this, I am struggling so hard, I can't accept something like this. I started developing acnes sometime ago, its leaving black spots all over my face despite all the products I used. I am loosing my confidence. So tell me Cass, is this worth accepting?
I totally understand how you feel jessica. I also recently started developing acne too and it has left some black spots on my face. I also have days when i feel like very bad about what my face looks like now but honestly there's nothing i can do about it so I'm just not stressing about it so much anymore.
Yes it is! and i think using so much products on your face might even worsen it
Don't despair! Every woman does feel this way at some point. This phase is a process to learn how to be comfortable with yourself.
Love,
Sheyla
nice post
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Real shit, actually realest shit!
Honestly, I look in the mirror and tell myself I'm cute everyday. It sounds narcissistic but if I don't believe myself when I say I'm gorgeous how on earth am I going to believe other's when they tell me. Self acceptance is a difficult journey, but it must be walked through.
xx
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love this post cassie..spot on
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You said it well. Self doubt is a huge subject especially among people who don't fit into the (socially constructed) norm such as pretty, long hair, certain dress size….and so on. well said Cassie.
Lovely post. Oh my, I loved the poem too.
Truth is that we tend to want what others have because that is what we have in our view. We need to step back to look at ourselves and failing to do that, we miss out on how beautiful we are in all the ways that matter. That's life. Someone is obsessed with putting on weight because she thinks she is too skinny, and then another looks at her as she struggles with her journey of weight loss. Both might think the other 'perfect'
But self acceptance is a necessary journey and a path we must all take at some point and the earlier the journey, the better prepared we are to take our rightful place in daily living and even in our pursuit of destiny. Then and only then can we see how beautiful we are and then truly appreciate the beauty in others.
The journey to self acceptance and self love is one that I feel that everyone has to be on constantly. If you let go and forget for a minute how awesome you are, then a lot of unwholesome thoughts will start flooding on…
And the doubts flood in for even pretty confident people, but remind yourself of who you are,the beautiful you, dust off the doubts and revel In the truth of the masterpiece that you are.
I wrote on beauty on BN some weeks back,talked about my own journey in this beauty ish see link here- http://www.bellanaija.com/2014/09/19/frances-okoro-imperfectly-perfect/
Then I wrote on self love yesterday, I learnt a lot from people's views, maybe it would help.. http://www.imperfectlyperfectlives.com
funny enough i think we have all experienced this
amazing poem.love this..we all have that friend.x
This is a very profound and beautiful post…
These days, I try not to linger on my supposed flaws and focus on highlighting the best bits of me.
me too! 🙁
xx
isa
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I could almost touch the sincerity in the poem by rapi. It reminds me of a poem I wrote called “bare”.. I would love for you to read it, and would love to have a one on one conversation with you.
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